Time is a precious commodity for a working mom, and is even more precious when she is single as well. Most moms deeply love their children, but are their children feeling that love?
As a working mom of five, I had noticed that even though we did things together - attending their sports games, watching Tv, outings like putt-putt, shopping, bicycling, eating, etc., I was not always receiving the inevitable responses I wished to have. There seemed to be unnecessary quarreling, interruptive behavior, unkind comments, and a petite thread of sibling jealousy that appeared at times. I did some researching and decided to implement a convert by committing to spending alone time with each child every evening. I had read and heard that children long more for their parent's time than the things they buy or give them. A commitment such as this with my already hectic program felt huge, which I feel sure you fully understand. What I chose to do was this: reading to the younger ones, talking with the older ones, became a good listener, helping with homework, praying together, and always kissing them and saying "I love you" regardless of what had occurred that day. No Tv, no music, only us. Sometimes we'd have group story-time, but mostly it was individual ability time. Either it was 10 minutes or 30 minutes each, it was on the program and rarely omitted.
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Perhaps you're mental right now about all your nightly tasks - fixing dinner, doing the wash, preparing clothes for the next day, exercising, chauffeuring to and from activities, cleaning the kitchen. Instead, give your kids the K.P. Duty, put in wash before beginning alone time rounds and convert to the dryer in between. Try carpooling for the to-and-from obligations, freeing you some evenings. It's all about priorities. Many times it took much of my evening. Sometimes the wash was left until the next day or I gave up some sleep to complete it before I retired, but the rewards outweighed any "sacrifice" I plan I had made.
Here are some suggestions to help you find the individualized time for your children:
* resolve this is prominent - a important part to make the
commitment doable.
* Look transmit to it and envision yourself enjoying it
before you implement it. I can promise you your
kids will read right through any faking on your part.
* Focus on each child's good qualities instead of those less
desirable ones.
* put in order extra food on your day off or on weekends and
freeze for a busy day meal. Don't succumb
to the fast food quick fix as this food is unhealthy and
doesn't provide nutrients important for raising
healthy children.
* Allow your children the privilege of helping with family
obligations...it will teach them teamwork
and the importance of working together. (I taught all my
children, boys and girls, how to iron their
clothes by first grade. Big help as they tended to toss
their clothes in disorderly array, causing
me much frustration. Doing their own ironing made a huge
change and later the girls often earned money from helping
their brothers who favorite paying for the assistance than
doing it themselves - mutual benefits!)
* When evening alone time is impossible, use every moment
you can when alone with your child -
driving places, take them to a meal alone where you can
talk with them, take a walk together
(accomplishes two things - practice and alone time!)
* Ask your child what he/she would like to do with you. Let
this child know how extra they are and
that you want to spend time with him/her.
* Do activities together - shoot baskets, hit tennis balls,
roller skate if you dare - anything works.
Anything is achievable with desire and recognition of value. My children are my most gift. Each one of them are distinct and unique as they have always been. They are grown now - twenties and thirties - but we often reflect back on our shared times. They remember that I made time for them individually which made them feel special, even if my day had been tiring and overwhelming. My recompense is five extraordinary friends of my adult children, not measurable by any earthly standards. We continue to do many things together harmoniously - not an easy feat for many families in contemporary times. Give your children their most precious gift - you! After all, love is all that undoubtedly matters.
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